Growing Old Gracefully

aging gracefully, affordable home care, in home help for seniors, in home care minneapolisI am not much of a TV watcher, but I happened to catch a popular talk show that was devoted to “growing old gracefully.”  The show featured older (like 50’s) celebrities who were still gorgeous, talking about their tactics for maintaining their beauty as they age.  Tragically, the entire focus of the show wound up being ways to change your outward appearance in order to look younger.  Is that what it means to grow old gracefully??  To try to look younger?  Not in my view.

It saddens me that aging is viewed as ugly and youthfulness is prized as beauty.  I am more prone to think along the lines of Eleanor Roosevelt, who said, “Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.”  There is nothing more beautiful than a woman in her eighties who knows who she is and carries herself with the dignity she has earned through a well-lived life.  Growing old gracefully should mean valuing the stage of life you are in, not trying to make it look like you are still in a stage gone by.

Do you know any “beauty secrets” for growing old gracefully that do NOT involve wrinkle creams or Botox?   Here are some suggestions I hear often from our elderly clients:

  • Take things one day at a time.
  • Laugh a lot.
  • Learn to think about the positives.
  • Be thankful.
  • Use your support systems.
  • Don’t criticize others; most people are doing the best they can with what they’ve been given.
  • Look outside yourself—giving to others makes you feel better about yourself.
  • Take the good with the bad.
  • Let go of regrets.

What suggestions do you have for growing old gracefully?

—Leanne I. Esch, LSW



October 13, 2011

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Comments (2)


  1. What an awesome way to keep in the loop of social networking. Thanks Paul for taking that step. Some day we will be there too.
    RAH Portland, Oregon

  2. Kat says:

    The one advice I have been given by many of my elders about growing old gracefully is to NEVER think about yourself as old! The cliche, age is only a number, has been embraced by the people who say this. They never think that they are old and cannot do something new because of it. I think that’s good advice. All the elders I know that lived life this way, I never believed they were as aged as they are. They just had a young spirit, and that means more than a young face.

    Good blog!

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