Eldercare at Home: Can I Pay Someone to Play Cards with My Elderly Parents?

  As adult children taking care of elderly parents, we often consume most of our caregiving time addressing the medical problems and physical limitations of our elderly parents who need help with bathing, medication management, housekeeping, or errand-running.  Stopping in after work or going over on the weekend to help out

Care for Older People: 9 Tips for Getting Your Money’s Worth at the Doctor

As we get older, it seems, at least for many of us, that our trips to the doctor become more and more frequent.  To make things worse, our trips are no longer one-stop shops.  There’s a different doctor to see for every medical ailment affecting our bodies.  This means, of course, that we go to the cardiologist on one day, the neur

8 Tips for Family Caregivers

1.  Caregiving is a job and respite is your earned right.  Reward yourself with respite breaks often. “Because caregiver burnout is a serious concern, it’s important for caregivers to create time for themselves and to focus on their own physical, mental, and spiritual health.  When a caregiver ends up with a health crisis, more

12 Tips for Communicating When Grandma Has Hearing Loss

It’s a quiet Friday in the office.  The phones aren’t ringing.  The door isn’t opening.  No one is even searching through file drawers.  And then, a screaming voice booms out, “Hello, Inez!  How are you today?” as if she were leading a marching band instead of conversing on the phone.  Despite the sudden break in peace,

Seniors and Reverse Adolescence

It’s not unusual for seniors to exhibit a variety of unexpected changes in behaviors as they age. For example, seniors sometimes become difficult or demanding, a sign of their struggle to maintain independence in the face of physical disabilities. They may get snippy or lash out as they struggle to deal with chronic pain and illness.

Pets for Seniors: Care for Older People and Their Pets

There is much scientific and anecdotal evidence to support the health benefits of pet ownership. According to Lynette Hart, Ph.D., studies have demonstrated that Alzheimer’s patients have fewer anxious outbursts if there is an animal in the home. Additionally, WebMD reports of one study where people having either a cat or a dog had lo

Grieving for a Loved One Who is Still Living

There are situations that can further complicate our ability to mourn a loss. My heart goes out to all of you who are dealing with the pain of caring about a person who is alive, yet unavailable as a result of psychological or memory disorders, including Alzheimer’s. Perhaps you want to help keep someone you love safe and feel powerle

Tips for Caregiving: Visiting a Person Who is Frail

[caption id="attachment_2318" align="alignright" width="295"] Margo Rose and her friend Mildred[/caption] It can be very awkward knowing what to do during a visit with someone who is in frail condition. I know this from experience since once a week I have been going to see my 98 year old friend Mildred who is blind and recovering fro

The Secret of Senior Mobility and Independence

In 2014, when I flew out to visit old family friends “Ginny and Lars,” I was sad to see Ginny meeting me at the airport in a scooter. Since her diagnosis with a rare auto-immune disorder, she had become reliant on a scooter when walking moderate distances. During my visit with them, walking was always a concern, and if she didn’t

Seniors Caring for Seniors (And Why It’s a Win-Win)

It could be a surprising scene. An adult child visits his mom to see that the caregiver Mom has been raving about is just five or ten years younger than his mother. Although this can be a surprise for adult children taking care of elderly parents, it’s not a surprise for their parents. In fact, it’s frequently a preference! As th